Getting a Girlfriend You Like

1) You must be flexible.

You can't be forceful with your ex, and try to demand that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. You have to be flexible, and be a listener and sympathize with them. Your ex won't believe what they're experiencing. They will be so surprised when they see this side of you. It will even inspire them to begin building that bridge of communication that was lacking before, when the two of you broke up in the first place.

2) You must be strong.

Strength is the opposite of neediness. Truth be told, no one likes a needy person, and this includes your ex. You need to stop begging, clinging and generally stop being, or acting desperate. You need to let your ex think that you've moved on, and that you're doing just fine without them. You can do all of this by acting strong and moving on with your life. When you've moved on, your ex will realize that they have not, and this will work to your advantage.

3) You must be yourself.

Believe it or not, this will help you in the end. After all, there was a great reason why you and your ex had a relationship in the first place. You may have to dig deep to remember the person you used to be, but you have to go back to being yourself. Let your ex remember why they originally fell in love with you. This renewed self perception of what you used to be like when it was just you, will eventually rub off on your ex as well.

There you have it. I gave you 5 tips for getting back at your ex. But, did you also realize that by doing these things, you are also creating an opening for rekindling your relationship? This can go either way, and in the end it's up to you. At least now, you have some options.

4) You must minimize communication.

I know that closing communication pathways may seem counterintuitive. This is especially true if your primary focus is to rekindle the love. But, what you may not realize is one that this is one of the most important steps to take when getting back at your ex. And, believe it or not, it's also one of the best ways to get your ex back. Take a break from your ex for a while. Cease all com communication with them and let them stew for a little while. This allows your ex to clear their mind and soon, they'll realize how important your relationship was to them.

5) You must leave.

By "leave" I mean that you have to get out of your house. This is no time for you to be alone so call up your friends and get out of the house. Start to develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to start dating right away, or even pay attention to the opposite sex. You may not be ready to do this, so instead, just go out and enjoy some time with your friends. This will end up being one of the most therapeutic things you can do for yourself, and it will also convince your ex that they lost something special.